1. Stay in your pyjamas: cry until your tears are dry, your eyes are red and you can bare to cry any more. Watch your favourite movies and let the grieving begin.
2. Mums really do know best, so if yours comes in for a hugging session, don’t push her away. Then, when you feel comfortable, have a chat to her about it.
3. Start writing a journal and write out everything you want to say to him and everything you’re feeling. Every possible thing you can put on to words; put it on paper.
4. This really is it. He hasn’t called and you’re feeling down in the dumps, but it’s still OK to cry.
5. Don’t forget to eat – depriving yourself of food will only make you feel worse (and personally food helps me feel happy).
6. Get off the couch and go for a run – you’ll feel better if you get active. Try a run around the block, or some sit-ups. Exercise will clear your mind for a while.
7. Call in your support for comfort. Bestfriends + chocolate + comedy movies = a girl who’s having too much of a good time to think about the fool who broke her heart.
8. Step away from the phone! Don’t call him, don’t text him… don’t even look at your phone!
9. Have a shower (wash that hair!) and call the friends you neglected while you were all over that guy!
10. Pamper yourself. Get a massage and a fake tan (one that’s done by a credible beautician – turning orange will not help your self-esteem!). Have a bubble bath and get a manicure or something fun!
11. Anyone else you know been hurt by a crush? Ask them for advice on how they got through it. They might have some useful tips you haven’t thought of.
12. Say “hi” to him in a casual way, letting him know things don’t need to be weird anymore.
13. If you’re emotional from your first contact after he hurt you, have a cry (but make it a good one coz it’ll be the last tears you’ll shed over him).
14. Feel empowered that someone who truly deserves you is waiting for you in your future.
15. Time for an anger-management activity to let go of all that build-up rage! Kickboxing, anyone? Punching bag?
16. Clean out your life – room included – and line your walls with pics of hot celebrities! Get rid of any photos of you together. Don’t torture yourself!
17. Improving your grades sounds boring, but it will boost your confidence and make you feel really accomplished!
18. Reward your hard work with a relaxed, but fun, girly night out with some great mates.
19. Him not liking you back isn’t your fault, so get those thoughts out of your head… today!
20. Get together with a couple of friends and have that awesome bitch sesh you’ve been dying to have.
21. You’re cool, calm and collected… ’til you run in to him. Be strong; you can cry at home. Notice how the tears are struggling to flow now? It’s nearly over.
22. We all love something about ourselves, so list yours – and be honest! Dig deep and make that list a long one!
23. Do something nice for someone who’s been really supportive of you in your time of need.
24. Stop secretly stalking his Facebook page and deleting your history – effective immediately!
25. Do as Ne-Yo says and really own being Miss Independent. You’ll love every minute of it!
26. A change is as good as a holiday, so get a haircut and treat yourself to some new clothes.
27. Going back and forth with your phone is not going to give you closure. Delete his number already! Free yourself!
28. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, so go fishing! If that doesn’t work out, remember where you kept this.
Words: Sarah Friggieri, Girlfriend Magazine, Australia.
Further edited and extended by crush–advice xo
